I bet there’s even some you don’t know you’re using.
A recent post sparked some personal conversations about excuses and our natural leaning towards using them.
Excuses feed the flinch mechanism. That momentary hesitation, while we run our internal programs and decide on the safest choice.
I’ll let you in on a secret. Safe isn’t always the best choice.
Safe Can Make You Unhappy
Unhappiness is a virus. Spreading easily from one discontented soul to another.
It seeps into peoples psyches and before they know it they’ve adopted someone else’s meme because it helps them to place the responsibility outside of themselves for their own problems. Brilliant. Simple. Dangerous.
If you’re pissed off with your current set of circumstances in life, I’d bet money that you have your own neat and tidy box of excuses at the ready to support and justify your cause.
Are You Playing The Game?
Hey I’m no exception. I can mix it with the best of them when it suits.
For many years I’ve used the ‘too fat’ excuse. It’s the cross I’ve chosen to bear. Yep chosen.
On a logical level I understand I’m responsible. I’m a grown ass adult, (no pun intended) and have been for a very long time. Sure there were influences, triggers and the like, but I’m not going to run the psychobabble because it only feeds the excuses. More justification is the last thing needed.
My results are a measure of my own actions or inaction as the case may be.
That lack is not caused by a shortage of discipline. But in the strength of belief in my excuses. Your’s too I’d wager.
Over time our behaviours align with our beliefs and are perpetually reinforced through this self talk and action. Before you know it you’re in a cycle that is so automatic you no longer question it.
Well It’s High Time You Questioned
Any of these have a familiar ring?
I can’t make it, I can’t do that, I’m too old, too fat, don’t know. I haven’t got time, don’t deserve it, it’s already been done, I’m not good enough, not smart enough, uncertain.
When we use excuses we are giving ourselves permission to filter out life and its experiences. tweet that
Isn’t the purpose of your time here, to find joy, to love, to be you, to create, to inspire, to help, to savor every single moment.
What’s incredulous is we do this to ourselves! Our own self imposed conditions & behaviors are holding us back.
We excuse ourselves to compensate for our own perceived inadequacies.
We make excuses to others because we fear judgement & abandonment.
When you know better, you’re supposed to do better. So I’m raising the call today.
Examine Your Thoughts
You really do know better don’t you!
What excuses are you running that are holding you back from achieving what you want from life?
Where are you placing responsibility outside of yourself?
Nothing is ever accomplished through excuses. A change is well overdue. I know it’s that time for me how about you?
There’s nothing like a public declaration to help you face your demons, and find support from others in the same boat.
So let me have it. Get a little vulnerable and expose your excuses below…& get ready to face a power shift. Hey be sure to share this with your friends too, leave yourself nowhere to run and hide